The choice to have sex is a decision that only you can make. Even if your parents have talked to you a thousand times or threatened to tie a chastity belt around your waste if you even think about having sex, the bottom line is only you can decide how soon you are going to have sex. Believe it or not, the best decision is to wait. Why? Because a smart girl knows that the longer she waits the more time she will have to make sure she doesn’t make a momentary decision that she might later regret. Did you know that in a survey where high school girls were asked whether or not they regretted having sex in their teens, more than half said that they wish they had waited?
This is why you need to think of a strategy to help you hold off on sex until you are absolutely sure you won’t make a decision that you might later regret. You need to decide now before you get caught in the heat of the moment, what your position on sex will be. If you wait until you get caught up in the movement, how will you know if you’ve made the right decision? The decision to have sex can affect your self-image, your reputation, your health, your education, your goals, how soon you become a mother, and so much more. You’ve got to be sure that you won’t have any regrets after it’s all said and done.
Sex is a whole lot more than physical pleasure. It was intended as a gift that a husband and wife share with each other. This is why it is best to hold out. Casual sex is not cool. In the long run, it diminishes your self-esteem and confidence.
If you are thinking about having sex, talk to an adult you trust before rushing into something that you may regret. If you are worried about getting pregnant, contracting a sexually transmitted disease, what your parents will think if they find out, your reputation, or whether or not the guy will stick around for the long haul, then you are not ready to have sex. Because all of these things are very real consequences that could occur if you decide to have sex.
I know you’ve heard it a thousand times. But honestly: What’s the rush?
When you are ready you won’t have any fears or doubts. Sex will not make you popular, because your real friends will accept you whether you’re doing it or not. And trust me, everybody is not doing it. Sex will not make guys love you or be faithful to you because if a guy truly loves you he will respect your decision to wait and will not mess around while he’s waiting.
Choosing to wait is not a decision that only a virgin can make. Even if you’ve had sex in the past you can choose abstinence. Many young women who have had sexual experiences in the past are reclaiming their virginity by abstaining from sex. You might be asking yourself, “how can a woman reclaim her virginity?” When I looked up the word virgin, one of the definitions given was, to be in a pure and natural state. By choosing celibacy you are choosing to be in your pure and natural state. While you are waiting for the right time there are many things that you can do to focus your attention away from sex. You can:
1. Study hard and improve your grades
2. Get involved with extracurricular activities such as sports, dance, music, art, poetry and other activities that allow you to express your creativity.
3. Discover your fashion sense. You can follow some of the clothing trends but hook it up with your own personal style.
4. Join a club, leadership group or start your own.
5. Participate in a community service project – make a few friends while doing good for your community.
6. Eat healthy and get some exercise. You will look and feel better.
7. Pamper yourself without going overboard. Treat yourself to a new fragrance or manicure.
8. Start your own business. There are many businesses run by teenage girls and young women. Figure out what you’re good at and offer that service to someone who needs it. Teach a skill. Design websites. Walk a dog. Wash windows. Go grocery shopping for busy people.
You will remember your first sexual experience for the rest of your life so think long and hard before you make one of the most major decisions of your life.